How to be happy with yourself.
If you are not happy with yourself, then you are not accepting yourself as you are. You may not want to accept yourself as you are, for you may have criteria that you want to live up to. You may want to be a better person, you may want to behave the way you think you should and maybe you are not living up to your expectations.
These are all reasons not to accept yourself as you are. You may have other reasons why you should not accept yourself the way that you are.
Are they reasons or excuses? And does it matter?
If you have a reason or excuse not to accept yourself as you are, then you also have a reason or excuse to not be happy with yourself!
Here is the problem, (rather one of the problems in relation to being happy with yourself) you want to be happy with yourself but you don’t want to accept yourself as you are. This is an impossibility to achieve.
If you are not accepting or don’t want to accept yourself as you are, then quite simply, you are rejecting yourself. How do you feel if someone rejects you? Nobody likes it, it is the most painful feeling most people have, and it is worse when the rejection comes from yourself, so how can you possibly be happy with yourself if you are rejecting yourself.
So you have a choice and decision to make:
Keep rejecting yourself and remain unhappy with yourself.
Or
Accept yourself as you are and discover happiness with yourself.
Accepting yourself is a prerequisite to being happy with yourself, there is no point trying anything else until you are willing to accept yourself.
Accepting yourself is the starting point. If you do not accept yourself, then you are lost and to arrive at any desired destination, you have to get to the starting point first.
To accept yourself – remove all expectations of what you should be or should do. You are a human being, that’s it, nothing else. Do not place any meaning on what it means to be a human being. Accepting yourself is simply stating ‘I am’, nothing more, no judgments, no criticisms and no criteria. You are here, now.
Can you do that?
That is the beginning, once you have done that, then accept anything that comes up. If you feel that you are bad person, (for example and whatever that means to you) then accept that, say to yourself – “Right now in this moment, I am feeling that I am a bad person”. This is the truth of how you are feeling, so please just allow yourself to accept the truth of the moment. Realize that acceptance does not mean approval. By accepting the way you feel or perceive yourself, then you have stopped rejecting yourself and you are stopping a vicious cycle of continual condemnation.
You have arrived at the starting point and finally heading in the right direction.
Read more on acceptance here.
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